kezzadafezza asked: Hey Louise! :) Being a bigger girl, I am so worried about what to wear in the summer AND I have a holiday to Turkey in July. I feel so hot and uncomfortable having to wear jeans and cover up my horrible arms etc all the time. My body shape is very similar to yours, I always love what you wear! What types of clothes do you recommend I should look at?? i,e, what length skirts etc to best compliment my fuller figure??? much love! :) <3
First of all, I know you don’t have horrible arms or legs. Whenever you think like that you have to remember that they are just arms and legs. Just limbs. Not horrible. I have wibbly thighs but I get them out because I’m not going to be hot and bothered and if someone looks at them and thinks, ‘urgh they’re a bit fatty jibbly’ then the shame is on them, not me.
Clothes wise - ASOS has some LOVELY floaty dresses. Go for dresses with short sleeves if you feel like straps are too exposing, skater fits are flattering to bigger boobies and look lovely on cinched in waists. Maxi skirts worn high with tops tucked in are always glamourous and leave you feeling a little more covered.
Remember though, slim does not equal beautiful and chubby does not equal ugly. Some people love girls with a bit of meat on their bones and some like leanbeans. Love yourself. It’s only skin and biological stuff that makes up your body. Your beauty is in the way you treat people, the way you hold yourself and the choices you make. Clothes are just the icing on the already delicious cake. xxx
Let’s start with this - I do not want to write this post. I have tried very hard, in the past several days, to convince myself not to write this post. I have gone to great lengths to keep my private life private, particularly this past year, and the idea of putting intensely personal experiences out there for the judgment and discussion of internet strangers frankly terrifies me. But what’s been surfacing in these online communities this week is bigger than me, and I’ve felt like a coward for remaining silent while too many women I greatly respect & admire have found the courage to put themselves out there and contextualize their negative experiences in the interest of a greater positive outcome. The dialogue happening right now around manipulative & abusive relationships with prominent internet content creators is important, is something I have a unique perspective on, and is something I cannot in good conscience continue to ignore.
After being inspired by the bravery of some really amazing women, most especially Kristina Horner, and encouraged by many friends to come forward with my own messed up story, I’m doing so in the hope that others (most especially the many young girls who follow me) can learn from my mistakes. This is a story I’ve held inside for almost three years now and have suffered a lot of lasting emotional pain from, so I hope, too, that finally sharing it all will provide a kind of cathartic release.
Anonymous asked: firstly, i adore you! secondly, whats your opinion on feeling confident with your body shape and the things you wear or is it something you struggle with? <3
Thank you! Well, I think you can be confident and feel lovely/sexy at any size. Work out which clothes suit you and stick to them. For example, pencil skirts are not my friends but skater and floaty dresses are a total win. Once you’re in clothes that suit, you stop worrying about bits of body looking bad etc and just enjoy things. Focus on which parts of you you like. EG. I like my legs, boobs, waist and bum so I wear clothes to show them off and conceal my tummy a bit.
Please don’t feel unconfident. You’re as worthy as every single other person. xxxx